I adopted a child 8 years ago from Russia who is now 9 years old. Unfortunately, it is not working.
He can be the best boy but he can also be the worst. I am divorced and we don't have a connection. It doesn't work with he an I and I don't expect that it ever will.
I don't have other children and I don't have a religous background - which I think he needs both of. He needs a family with lots of other kids and 2 patient tolerant parents who are both patient and a mother who is nurturing and will do what every mother is expected to do.
He has ADHD and can be very difficult at times for someone that just doesn't have the patience or calm demeanor. For someone who is cut out to be a mom, they would have an easier time of it.
I am working with an agency to try to place him into another home. If anyone here knows of anyone that is able to help or interested in this situation, please respond with any advice or information you have.
GREAT comment!!! Everybody telling the OP that she is the child's mother, telling her to raise her child. What support she is getting to parent her child.
I would love to see the day when a scared girl/woman facing an unexpected pregnancy can get this kind of encouragement & support. Most girls choosing adoption would never consider it if they had such great support, if she was given all the options for help in raising her child. Instead, most are looked at only as a source for another baby for the adoption industry. They are deemed too young, too poor, and just by the fact that she is considering adoption is looked at as unfit to raise her own child.
Missy Romeis said:Would we all be so quick to judge if she was a birthmom placing for adoption?
you've had this child for 8 years...and now you want to give him away..? What if you birthed him yourself and he had the same problem would you also seek to give him away? you have raised him since he was one...You are his mother. Step up to the plate..