Yes, 9 year olds can absolutely be adopted! Check out the PA site http://www.adoptpakids.org/, there is a whole section on waiting children and I bet if you contacted their help line, they would have all sorts of details to help you. The best of luck!
When I say open adoption I mean I want to be able to see him at times, maybe every other weekend and I want to know how he is doing. I want to attend school plays and games. I love him so much and this is hard. I am a single mom, his dad left when I was 3 months pregnant and we have not been able to find him. My son has ADHD and ODD but he is great now that he is on meds. We have not had any issues with him in a long time. Well besides normal 9 year old things. His councelor tried to do a budget with me but I was $300.00 short to be able to do a budget. I can barely afford food and I try to get help but everyone says I make too much since they go by my gross pay and dont look at rent and loans and car insurance. I cant put him in sports because I cant afford the uniforms and gas to and from the places. I tried to get a 2nd job but I cant since daycare will only keep him so ling and they keep him for my full time job. I dont have family so its not like someone can watch him. We have been through so much and I just cant do it anymore. I dont know where else to turn. He is a great kid and a sweetheart and always wants to help but I just cant do it. I had him when I was 20 and have been a single mom since. I just turned 30 and its horrible to say but I am under so much stress that I hate my life. Now a days a child needs a 2 parent household to survive and he needs a dad or dad figure and thats something i can not do for him. He says he wants brothers and sisters but I had my tubes tied since I almost lost him while pregnant. So i cant have anymore kids. He deserves better
I emailed the site and asked for help with either adoption, guardianship or a foster home. Honestly the problem is he used to be violent but only towards me. But he has been put on the correct meds and he is a different child now. He is happy and helpful but after the years of abuse I detached myself from him. He was in a theraputic foster home for about 5 months and he is coming hom friday (tomorrow) just knowing he is coming home is so stressful. I cant stop crying. in that situation he came home every other weekend. They adopted an autistic child and have 3 of their own childen and I knew this was a few month program. I dont know what harder the fact that he is coming home or the fact that he is better now but i still dont want him home. He has not been viotent towards anyone else. We (the councelors and I) dont understand it especially since it started so early. They put him in the home hoping he would do it to someone but its only towards me. Again he has not been mean to me on any of the visits but I became numb around him. Just knowing he is coming home, my councelor had to put me on depression and anxity medicine. I cant even say he is coming home tomorrow without crying. I dont understand and others dont how I can love him but not want to be around him full time.