Forgiving the Adoption Parent.

Is there any room for forgiveness toward an adoptive parent that doesn't ever tell the child that he or she is adopted ??

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Permalink Reply by Jan on January 10, 2012 at 4:47pm

I think so. As a birth mom, I think NOT telling a child about their adoption is completely wrong, and I urge any adoptive parent to be truthful with their child. But, I think most aparents who do not tell their children about their adoption do so out of ignorance or fear, not maliciously.

Plus, I think as human beings we all make mistakes.....sometimes big ones, and need to be forgiven. As a birth mom, I feel relinquishing my son to adoption was a huge mistake....but, I allowed it to happen out of fear and ignorance. It took me a long time to forgive myself.

Besides, holding on to anger usually hurts the person who holds that anger the most. Letting go of anger is part of the healing process.