Introduce Yourself
Tell us about yourself and your adoption story.
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Permalink Reply by Paula Darkins on -
Love it. Adoption is wonderful. I am an adopted adult and have created an album for parents to give their adopted children. It is a beautiful 10 page book with a line from my poem on each page. At the top of the page there is room for a picture of your child. The poem states "the first time i saw you, i knew you were mine, i felt in my heart, this must be divine, so now, in this moment, on this day, at this time, you SWEET ANGEL are, forever mine!! It is a special keepsake for your child to remind them of your love especially when they go through the questioning phase. Let me know if you would like more information.
Be blessed
Paula
Megan Hilton said:Hi! My name is Megan and I'm so excited about Adoption Voices! My husband Shane and I were married in 2001, as my older sister and her husband were hoping to adopt from China. A few months later, when we were told we should not attempt to get pregnant because my body would not physically handle pregnancy well, we were devastated. Watching my sister and her husband go through the adoption process and find their sweet baby girl was inspiring and hopeful for us. In addition, my husband's father is adopted and we are so grateful to belong to his family. We didn't even have to think twice about what our next step would be. As soon as we had all our ducks in a row to do so, we began our adoption journey in hopes of building our own forever family. Our son Carter Jesse (CJ) was our first amazing adoption miracle and we have been certified and waiting for another miracle since the Fall of 2007. At this time, we are pursuing foster adopt options in addition to working with LDS Family Services for domestic adoption here in the US. I enjoy spending my days with my little guy at home and being active in both the local adoption community and online with people like you!
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Permalink Reply by Melissa Jensen on -
We have been married almost 11 years, have no children yet. We have completed the first leg of our adoption and are waiting for a match. We have had three matches so far, two of them never got past the phone stage. One of them was serious, we had been picked! Mom was in TX, so we had bought our tickets and were headed out to meet her about a month before the baby was born. The weekend before we left it all fell apart - it was devastating. The mom had run from an abusive husband and has two other kids to support, which was why she was choosing adoption. When the agency we hired in TX located the dad, he was never for the adoption. We had initially been told that due to the abuse, in TX his parental rights would be severed. Not the case, because she had never documented any of the abuse. She was so perfect, I felt right at home with her and knew we would get along so well with a semi-open adoption. It was heartbreaking.. So now we are waiting again. The TX adoption was a year ago, and we finally had to use our airline credit or would lose it all together. I was so sure we would get our match before then so those were our "baby tickets." It was a bitter sweet vacation we went on last month. Right now I'm busy completing some adoption grant applicaitons and will be planning a yard sale soon to raise some money for our very depleted adoption fund. We are also part of a orphan care group at our church, so we have some activities there including planning an adoption awareness seminar.
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Permalink Reply by Melissa Jensen on
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So great to hear that you have successfully adopted already! The process can be so grueling, and we are so disheartened right now. Your story is so helpful!
Megan Hilton said:Hi! My name is Megan and I'm so excited about Adoption Voices! My husband Shane and I were married in 2001, as my older sister and her husband were hoping to adopt from China. A few months later, when we were told we should not attempt to get pregnant because my body would not physically handle pregnancy well, we were devastated. Watching my sister and her husband go through the adoption process and find their sweet baby girl was inspiring and hopeful for us. In addition, my husband's father is adopted and we are so grateful to belong to his family. We didn't even have to think twice about what our next step would be. As soon as we had all our ducks in a row to do so, we began our adoption journey in hopes of building our own forever family. Our son Carter Jesse (CJ) was our first amazing adoption miracle and we have been certified and waiting for another miracle since the Fall of 2007. At this time, we are pursuing foster adopt options in addition to working with LDS Family Services for domestic adoption here in the US. I enjoy spending my days with my little guy at home and being active in both the local adoption community and online with people like you!
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Permalink Reply by Paula Darkins on
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Oh how confusing it all is. You never want to hurt anyone and yet you struggle to find your own way. I was adopted at 8 days old into a wonderful family. I had questions and struggles and eventually I decided I had to find Her, my bmom. My parents supported it but there is still that underlying fear and tension. Maybe just on my part, but it really messed with me. I never wanted them to feel they were not my true parents because they are. I just needed some answers and info about my first 9 months and 8 days. I feel we have a right to know. I encourage your husband to have the conversation with his parents, ask them if they would like to know what he finds out, and then proceed to find out any information he can. He is very blessed to have your support. My husband was a huge support and encouragement for me. The two of you together can take the journey together. I would love to know how it all goes.
Lindsay Chipman said:I'm very new to this website but my name is Lindsay and I am here on behalf of my husband he was adopted at 2 months of age, lately he has been having questions about whether or not he may have biological siblings, he hasn't dared asked his Adopted mom for fear that she may think he is trying to replace her however when we were married his A Dad gave him the number to the agency they went through for adoption and his placement date so he is kind of conflicted about it all. When I told him about this site he has been very interested he doesn't want to make his own profile for worrying that his A mom may find it so we are doing it through my name.(I hope that is okay....)
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Permalink Reply by Elizabeth Geary on -
Hi everyone,
Somehow I just discovered Adoption Voices and I wish I had known about it a lot sooner! I knew from the time I was a little girl that I would adopt children. My desire to have adopted children has far outweighed my desire for biological children. A lot of people can't understand that. My husband and I are capable of having bio kids but have chosen not to at this time (and maybe never!). We adopted our son from Guatemala in February 2008. He was 9 months old. His foster family is awesome! I keep in touch with them through monthly emails and photos. They took such excellent care of our boy for 9 months. I'm so saddened with all the turmoil in Guatemala right now. We would love to adopt again and our first choice would be going back to Guatemala. I really hope the mess with the Hague Convention gets straightened out soon...although it looks to be years before adoptions will re-open in Guatemala. Children - including newborns - are being left out on the streets to fend for themselves. There really is no reason for it.
I work part time, so I am home most of the time with my two year old. It's the best job I've ever had! I really enjoy it, being a Mom is the most rewarding thing I've ever experienced. I'm looking to connect with other adoptive moms. For those of you waiting, good luck, try your best to keep busy and keep the faith. Believe me, I know how difficult it is!
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Permalink Reply by Sarah Paxton on -
HI! My name is Sarah, and my husband Tyler and I have been married for 5 years. We are both 28. We live in Mi, where my husband works and is getting his MBA. We have two beautiful daughters Ava (3.5) and Violet (2.5). We have secondary infertility, and are pursuing adoption for our third - and anxiously - awaited child!! We have always wanted a big, crazy family and are working hard to make that happen. We love adoption, and would love to talk to birthparents, other adoptive families, and anyone with an an interest in adoption.
We always knew we would adopt and/or foster, but planned on doing it later in life. As most on this site, what we "thought" would happen never did, and we are now going forward with adoption. Our home study is approved and we are going through an agency, LDS Family Services.
Our profile is here: https://www.itsaboutlove.org/ial/profiles/22981484/ourMessage.jsf
And our blog with a lot more info is here: http://fromtheheart143.blogspot.com
We would love to chat or e-mail, and wish all on here the best.
fromtheheart143@gmail.com
Talk to you all soon!
Sarah
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Permalink Reply by Greg & Heather Warburton on -
We are the Warburton's, Greg and Heather. We live nestled in the most beautiful part of the Utah mountains. We love living near family and enjoy spending time with our parents, siblings and cousins that live near us. We are near parks and schools and have the most awesome view of the mountains from our backyard. We feel very blessed to live in such a great community. We know that our family is not yet complete and are looking forward to adopting soon.
We are parents to four awesome children, and are looking to adopt a beautiful baby girl. We have waited for quite sometime for this little angel to join our family and we are sure that she will get every bit of love, nurturing, caring support from us that you could ever ask for. We are so excited to welcome her into our family. If you have questions for us or would like to see our profile please email us, we would be happy to answer all of your questions. We are grateful for the miracle of adoption.
hwarburton@gmail.com
Greg and Heather Warburton
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Permalink Reply by Marion on
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Hi
My Husband and I have been waiting 6 long months it seem like an eternity, We our with Adoption Network Law center in california, We Hope to get our miracle soon the wait is horrible. We have been together for nine years, and we want to start a family soon, to share our love with a child and to love a precious baby unconditionally, I cant wait to be a mom as my husband cant wait to be a dad. and teach our child about life and watch them grow and see life through there eyes, and watch them explore different things through life, and help them as much as possible accomplish what they want to achieve through life and help them get there if possible.
Marion& Bob
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Permalink Reply by judy ruiz on
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The agency we are using (Vista Del Mar) provided a social worker who dropped the ball in a major way. After all the home studies and live scan she never wrote up our profile, lied to the director that we halted the process and never notified us. The director then says we halted the process which WE NEVER DID and WE SHOWED HER ALL THE E-MAILS trying to get our SOCIAL WORKER to GIVE US INFO of WHATS HAPPENING. SUDDENLY SHE QUITS WE ARE LEFT HANGING. WE GOT ANOTHER SOCIAL WORKER FINISHED EVERYTHING IN A MONTH AND NOW WE ARE WAITING. WE LOST A YEAR AND MORE MONEY NEEDED TO BE SPENT BECAUSE MORE LIVESCANS NEEDED. The Director gives us the "well too bad for your experience" talk but doesn't acknowledge the fact if the first social worker did her job we wouldn't have to spend an additional $500. and emotional distress of when our child will come and may have a baby now. NO compassion or acknowledgement of their error. We just got a "too bad for you."
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Permalink Reply by Whittier Strong on
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Hello. My name is Whittier. I am a 35yo graphic artist living in Minneapolis. I spent ten years in "therapy" trying to become straight enough to start a family with a woman, to no avail. I am presently improving my financial straits so that I can adopt in four years or so.
I struggle primarily because I want desperately to raise children, ever since I was a child myself, but I would also like to be coupled, and gay men who want to raise children are almost non-existent. But I figure part of the point of having children is that you can think outside of yourself, that you can learn sacrifice, so I am trying to learn that sacrificing my desire to be in a couple is a worthy sacrifice to make for my children.
I am looking forward to learning everything I can from this site. I learnt it from the book "You Can Adopt", which is perhaps the most important book I've ever read.
Thank you
Whittier
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Permalink Reply by Danette Voshage on -
Well, My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I was 31 and he was 44 when we married. We were told many years ago (3rd anniv) that we would most likely never be able to have children. We decided to put it in the Lord's hand and did nothing but the "natural" thing. About the time that I had resigned myself that we would never be parents I found out I was preg. Day before Thanksgiving 2006.......I had a wonderful pregnancy and delivered a healthy little boy on July 25, 2007. His name was Thadeus Christian. He had Hischsprungs and was improperly diagnose with a mal rotation of the intestine. They did suregery and he died from septic. Babies don't genereally die from Hirschsprungs but due to the build-up of fecal matter the surgery killed him. Needless to say we were devastated. We had waited over 10 years for this little guy. Our love for one another and our faith in God carried us through but we were still so broken.
In Sept. 2008 a very good friend of mine called and said that her niece was preg and had asked her if she thought that in light of what we had been through if we might consider adopting this baby when it was born. It took us no time at all to say yes. Ironically she was born the day before Thanksgiving 2008. In a few days she will be 1 year old and is the light of our life. We truly needed her as much or more than she needed us. Her name is Dakota Faith Christain and we are now loving life again and know that she has a guardian angel named Thad watching over her and Mom and Dad.
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Permalink Reply by Dawn Renae Rarick-Kollman on -
Hello and Greetings from Nevada!
My name is Dawn Renae. I am 31 years old.
My story is a long one, but to save myself from losing friends, I'll shorten it up. LOL.
In 1998 I was nearing my 7th month of pregnancy with my first child. I was beaten by his father pretty badly, and it caused me to deliver early. My little boy lived for 12 minutes. Since then I have miscarried 6 other pregnancies.
The most recent one the January before we found out about our little girl.
In November 2007 I found my brother, (who I was not raised with) and his wife, who had a 4 month old daughter. They were having a tough time, as they were both homeless. They had just found our (my brother and mine) birth mother, and were on their way to live with her, when they found out they were pregnant again. They had always planned on having two kids. One boy one girl. Girl was first. They got pregnant again fast...
Well, in January, I had lost my last pregnancy with my current husband. It was almost devestating, but I still have hopes...
They called us up and asked us if we were willing to adopt their new baby. My husband wasn't ready, and though I was hurting, I couldn't say no. So, through many months of waiting, of my sister in law debating, of near close calls of losing the peanut, I flew to Spokane Wa, where I met my s.i.l and my brother, who went to jail... I stayed with her for 6 weeks until our daughter was born. She didn't even hold the baby. Part of that made me sad, part of me understood. She didn't want to build a bond...
Well, for the first 6 months my s.i.l lived with us. She never in any of that time acknowledged our little one. I say our, because she will always be ours. Hers and mine... I hope in time, I will understand.
It was time for our day in court, and s.i.l was no where to be seen. The judge signed the paperwork, and then called us a week later to tell us that the bm was contesting the adoption. UGH!!! My heart nearly fell from my chest. I could't believe it. I thought our adoption was final. Appearantly there had been a problem with the paperwork the attorney had drawn up. So, bm had the right to change her mind.
Though she had changed her mind, she made no effort to come and get our baby. So, 5 months after our court date, the judge called us, said she was going to terminate parental rights due to abandonment, and it made our adoption legal!
We had planned on an open adoption the whole time. Though we are still very open, and communicating with our peanut's birth father/my brother, there is no sign we'll ever see or hear from her birth mother again. Though I'll pray every day that will change.
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