Introduce Yourself
Tell us about yourself and your adoption story.
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Permalink Reply by Yvonne Zoe Williams-Barker on -
hi, doing what is best for the children is always important. You did what you thought was right and none of us have the right to judge you.
Kristin A said:Wow - our birthmom has a very similar story. You are a hero :)
Ginger said:Well, I'm Ginger and I'm not your typical birth mom. I'm 26 years old. I parented my first child (Dawn in 2001), placed my second (2003), third (2004), and fourth (2008). Yes, I know how that happens. Yes, I was taking birth control when I got pregnant all 4 times - Depo shot, lunelle monthly injections, nuva ring, and a diaphram with spermacide and a condom. Apparently, none of them can be trusted but we'll hope that my tubal will be more effective. No more babies for me. Yes, they all have the same biological father. Yes, we're still together after 8 years. No, we really couldn't have parented all of them. Yes, I sound defensive; you'd be surprised (or maybe not) about the comments I get.
All of the adoptions are open with identifying information shared both ways. It's 3 different families and our amount of ongoing communication varies but I still have ongoing communication with everyone. In fact, this fall, I'm gearing up for an IVF cycle as a traditional surrogate to give my youngest daughter a sibling.
My blog is here: http://adoptionpuzzle.blogspot.com/
And you can feel free to ask me pretty much anything because I rarely get offended or upset...though I prefer that if you're going to ask really personal questions that you do it privately.
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Permalink Reply by Yvonne Zoe Williams-Barker on
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Hats off to you. I hope you get your child because you sound as though you have a lot to give a child.
Whittier Strong said:Hello. My name is Whittier. I am a 35yo graphic artist living in Minneapolis. I spent ten years in "therapy" trying to become straight enough to start a family with a woman, to no avail. I am presently improving my financial straits so that I can adopt in four years or so.
I struggle primarily because I want desperately to raise children, ever since I was a child myself, but I would also like to be coupled, and gay men who want to raise children are almost non-existent. But I figure part of the point of having children is that you can think outside of yourself, that you can learn sacrifice, so I am trying to learn that sacrificing my desire to be in a couple is a worthy sacrifice to make for my children.
I am looking forward to learning everything I can from this site. I learnt it from the book "You Can Adopt", which is perhaps the most important book I've ever read.
Thank you
Whittier
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Permalink Reply by Danette Voshage on -
God Bless you for making so many Families so Happy.
Yvonne Zoe Williams-Barker said:hi, doing what is best for the children is always important. You did what you thought was right and none of us have the right to judge you.
Kristin A said:Wow - our birthmom has a very similar story. You are a hero :)
Ginger said:Well, I'm Ginger and I'm not your typical birth mom. I'm 26 years old. I parented my first child (Dawn in 2001), placed my second (2003), third (2004), and fourth (2008). Yes, I know how that happens. Yes, I was taking birth control when I got pregnant all 4 times - Depo shot, lunelle monthly injections, nuva ring, and a diaphram with spermacide and a condom. Apparently, none of them can be trusted but we'll hope that my tubal will be more effective. No more babies for me. Yes, they all have the same biological father. Yes, we're still together after 8 years. No, we really couldn't have parented all of them. Yes, I sound defensive; you'd be surprised (or maybe not) about the comments I get.
All of the adoptions are open with identifying information shared both ways. It's 3 different families and our amount of ongoing communication varies but I still have ongoing communication with everyone. In fact, this fall, I'm gearing up for an IVF cycle as a traditional surrogate to give my youngest daughter a sibling.
My blog is here: http://adoptionpuzzle.blogspot.com/
And you can feel free to ask me pretty much anything because I rarely get offended or upset...though I prefer that if you're going to ask really personal questions that you do it privately.
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Permalink Reply by Lauren Spencer on -
Hi, I'm Lauren and my husband and I are about to complete our homestudy after over a year of researching adoption. We have been married for 5 years and the infertility diagnosis wasn't a surprise at all, but it was still an emotional time.
Now that we're approaching the end of our homestudy, I'm starting to just wonder what the big wait is like. I know that in the end we'll be matched with our child...but the waiting makes me apprehensive. I like the agency we're working with but I also plan to list with an attorney because our agency doesn't do that many direct placements.
We're looking for a pretty open adoption....we'd like for the birthmother to have a relationship with our son/daughter--not just pictures if possible.
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Permalink Reply by Beckett Franklin Gray on
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I have recently published a parenting book for the Chinese adoptive community.
"The Dragon Tribe: A Guide to Parenting in Chinese Adoption" is an education workbook for Chinese adoptive families. It covers the adoptive family wellness topics of historical origin, racial identity, attachment, adoption history, life books, educational scholarships for Asians, books, and documentary film resourcing
It is specifically written for the adoptive parent that has already been placed and currently raising a child of any age or number of years in the home.
But, it is also helpful for waiting families who would like a heads up on what to expect after placement.
100% of the profits from the sale of this book go towards our 501 ( c) ( 3 ) non-profit, the Dragon Sisterhood, which is an educational resource for the community.
Author - "The Dragon Tribe: A Guide to Parenting in Chinese adoption"
http://tinyurl.com/ykmd39t
Blog - The Dragon Sisterhood
http://www.dragonsisterhood.blogspot.com
Hello,
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Permalink Reply by Tina L.Christiansen on -
Hi! My name is Tina L. Christiansen, I'm an single adoptive mother of a little girl I adopted from china 3 1/2 years ago. Maya just turned 4 on Jan. 1st, she is a true blessing from God. I had started the process to adopt my second child in 2008 from Vietnam, my paperwork was about to go over when the country closed adoption to americans. It was a difficult time but I truly believe that the right child is out there for the right family.
I'm also the author of Maya's Journey Home and the President of Suitemates Publishing Company (a small independent publishing company. Maya's Journey Home is a story of Maya, a panda bear living in an orphanage in China. She, along with her best friend, Elsa, learn about mommies and daddies. They both hope to be a part of a family someday. Will that day ever come for them? Then, all different kinds of bears come to take baby pandas home. Maya sees that love and families come in all different packages. This book is
beautifully illustrated in watercolor paintings that give the story special meaning. This book will not only appeal to children adopted from China but with all children because it is about love.
Looking forward to learning more about Adoption Voice.
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Permalink Reply by Lisa Sweet on -
Hi- My name is Lisa. I am the adoptive mom to four beautiful children.Our oldest is 18 and going into the Army in July, we have identical twin boys who , ad a daughter who is 6. We have been blessed to have experienced 4 pretty easy adoptions. I am an RN of 23 years with Labor and Delivery background and I am an adoption facilitator with Chicks in Crisis in Calif. I help women in crisis (for instance, I just hung up with a new mom who needs diapers) and I work adoption plans. I would like to start a group her on Adoption Voices for people to sk me questions an post available situations. Hope to get to know some of you soon.
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Permalink Reply by Laura K on -
Some of you may know our story, but here it is:
My husband Davin and I have been married almost ten years. We thought we wanted to get pregnant right away, but it didn't happen. I agreed to a round of Clomid, but that was hell on earth. We decided against further hormone treatments because I have a hormone issue that I already take meds for- the Clomid turned everything upside down. We settled into a happy life without children. After about five years we felt ready- eager, in fact- to start a family. Again, a round a Clomid- apparently I had forgotten the effects it had on me the first time. I have PCOS- of course that doesn't mean I can't get pregnant, but it does make it more difficult. I don't really know when adoption was first mentioned, but I do know that when we did talk about it, it felt completely natural- it felt perfect for us. So I started researching. We signed on with a MN agency, started our home study in November of 2007, and finished everything to be put in "The Book" in May of 2008. In July 2008 we met with a potential birth mother. She met with three families, and after two weeks of going back and forth between us and one other family, she chose the other family.
A couple weeks later we were chosen by S. She was due in November. We met her and C (birth father), and everything was going great. On a rainy day in the beginning of October I was going to Babies R Us to pick up some baby essentials when our social worker called us and told us S and C decided they were going to parent. We were heart-broken. However, S agreed to talk to me, and after a long phone conversation, I understood her decision and wished her the best. O was born on October 31st- she sent an email with a pic of him. Since his birth, S and I have become close friends- I've even met O. She has been an strong advocate for us. The most touching thing she did is offer to be a surrogate for us. She did a bunch of research and talked to two doctors before offering it to us. We feel adoption is the right decision for us, but that touched us.
We were chosen again in January of 2009 by J. After she chose us, she kind of disappeared. We assumed we wouldn't hear from her again. In early March, D, another potential birth mother contacted us. I spoke to her on the phone. After talking to her, we decided to turn down the situation because she said she was "50%" on whether she would place. The day after we made the decision, we got a call from J. She was in drug treatment- that's why she 'disappeared'. She was going to be induced the following Monday. On Friday we made a plan to meet her on Sunday at the facility where she was being treated. An hour after talking to her we got a call- she was in labor and we were to meet her at the hospital. We met her when she was in labor, so it was brief. We waited with her mom, sister, and son. We met baby K on the first day of spring, when she was 40 minutes old. After a bath, we brought her to a room with us, and spent the next day taking care of her. A social worker talked to J, and she said everything was going well, and she was getting ready to leave the hospital. An hour later we got a call that she changed her mind. We were beyond crushed, and very confused. There is nothing like leaving the hospital with an empty carseat. :( It took us a long time to recover, but we went back in the book in April, with bruised hearts. After all our activity, things went DEAD. We heard nothing until we started networking online last month. Since then we've been in contact with three birth mothers. Nothing has panned out- yet. We thought one girl wanted to work with us, but we haven't heard from her in two weeks, so we're assuming we won't. However, D from last spring (the situation we turned down), found our youtube video and commented on it. I emailed her and she has a friend due next month who is considering adoption. It sounds like a rough situation. She is supposed to be contacting an agency, so fingers crossed.
How's that for a novel? I don't know how to condense it more! lol
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Permalink Reply by goodiesformom on -
Hi, I thought I had posted my intro but don't see so here goes.
I'm Lois. I am married to a great guy for almost 8 years, and we have two biological sons. We are looking to complete our family with a little girl through domestic adoption. We started in September 2009 and just had our home study approved at the beginning of this month so now we are officially in the waiting phase. We are working with a very small local agency so we are networking on our own also.
Learn more about us and our journey at http://makingourfamilycomplete.blogspot.com
Lois
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Permalink Reply by Crystal on -
My name is Crystal. My husband and I live near Charleston, SC. We've been married for nearly 10 years and actively trying to build our family for the last 7 years. We are currently looking to adopt our first child. We are starting our 3rd year into our adoption wait. We're more than ready to finally start our family.
Our adoption website is http://www.ourfamilyadoption.net.
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