Profiles
There are so many places to go and I am hoping for some advice on where to go with profiles. It seems like there are so many different places to put a profile and just so much information to put on there but I really want to provide the information that is best to help expectant mothers who are considering adoption decide if they would like to speak with us and get to know one another better.
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Permalink Reply by Brigette on -
I don't know about you, but I told anyone that would listen that we were intersted in adopting. We went so far as to hand out a mini profile to the local gynecologists and friends obgyn's that would take it. You would be suprised at how many of these doctors keep such a file. We recently adopted our son and it was by way of word of mouth. Yes, it was from a doctors office, but not a obgyn. The people in the practice knew that we were intrerested in having a family, and we got a call about a"friend" that was in "this situation." I didn't care how it worked, but it did. I know this method seems a bit unconventional, but it's worth a shot. You may also want to contact local hospital social workers and see what their policy is for women who come in and want to give up their baby. We know of another couple that did this and they now have a beautiful 4 year old daughter. Hearing that story gave us hope. Hope this helps!
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Permalink Reply by michelle on -
See, this is hard to read as an adoptee. I'm sure you love your child dearly, but the "how it happened" IS important because that becomes part of the child's history. It's really tough to see people (in general, not you specifically) viewing unborn babies whose parents might consider placing as something they are trying to "get", and going to practically any length to obtain one. It's hard to put into words, but it's what people mean when they talk about adoptees being "objectified".
In any case, the main thing is that the WAY you go about pursuing a child may one day be quite important to him or her. Just something to ponder a bit, I guess.
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Permalink Reply by Brigette on
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Please don't take what I said out of context. I don't mean to offend anyone, so if i did, i apologize. my son will know how our family all came to be... as a matter of fact, we just met up with his birthmother and grandmother last week... this was the first time in 7 months. We are very open in our adoption and plan to continue this..... I never really thought about the language I use...... and I thank you for bringing this up! I'm still new to this and I appreciate people helping me... so I can help our Son... our family.
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Permalink Reply by michelle on
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Eh, I replied, but I didn't like the way it came across so I deleted it. : ) The basic gist of it was that the way we go about adopting can have an impact on our kiddos and that it's in their best interests for all aspects of adoption to be handled as ethically as possible. I could say more...and did...but decided it was just a bit too much! LOL
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Permalink Reply by Hannah Curtis -
Hi Everyone - Sorry I haven't been able to get back to this forum for awhile. I appreciate the advice but I guess maybe I didn't ask my question right. What I was getting at is that there is so much information to put out there and we were at a loss about what is the best to help an expectant mother who is considering adoption figure out if she'd like to get to know us at all. I guess I thought this was a place for any questions to discuss things. So Megan what is this forum for if you don't mind me asking. Thank you for the suggestion on language - there is a ton of it out there and people are very sensitive about language used.
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