Adopting Older Kids

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Adopting an older child can be a challenge. It can also be a wonderful experience. Share what it is like to adopt a child older than 3.

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Started by Yvonne. Last reply by Rebecca Hawkes Sep 10, 2011.

Started by Shannon Feist. Last reply by Deborah Mumm Oct 1, 2010.

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Comment by Becki on July 18, 2010 at 6:56pm: Because I am adopting as a single mom on FL, I prefer to adopt a girl 4-10. Because of the cost of international adoption, I have no choice but to go through the American Foster Care System. Why is international so expensive $30,000+? And why do states allow these poor kids to stay in the foster care system for years, before they can be adopted into loving homes? Every child my foster care case worker has presented to me has been over the age of 10, and has so many severe problems, I've had to say no. Are most of you experiancing these problems?

Comment by Scott Edward Blumenthal on July 18, 2010 at 8:01am: My wife and I have not adopted a child over age 3...actually this is a point of disagreement between us. She would prefer to adopt a child age 3 or under...while I would be willing to adopt a child age 6 or under

Comment by Sarah N Knapp on July 14, 2010 at 8:39am: Hello, I am just beginning the adoption process. ie contacting the state for a homestudy and whatnot. I will more than likely be adopting an older child. anywhere between 5 and 12. A girl. Any advise would be more than helpful!!!

Comment by Tracye Martin on May 23, 2010 at 5:44pm: LOVE WITHOUT BOUNDARIES:
The Question of International Adoption for Older Children

The adoption community has been abuzz lately about topics concerning the adoption of older children. So many older children in China live in both foster care and orphanages, just waiting for families of their own. While China is home to them and is all they have ever known, life as an orphaned child without a family name or hukou papers is bound to hold many challenges and can be a stigma that is difficult to overcome. However, being adopted and adjusting to a new family, new language and a new culture as a child about to enter the preteen or teen years is a daunting challenge as well.

So we would like to know what your thoughts are on the topic of international adoption for older children. Please vote in our poll and tell us more about what you think!

Comment by Deborah Mumm on April 30, 2010 at 6:47pm: If they are meant to be yours, it will all work out! Best of luck to you. How exciting.

Comment by Judy on March 9, 2010 at 10:34am: the mask can be a barrier between your child and you, your child and everyone else in their life, and your child and himself...

Comment by Deborah Mumm on February 28, 2010 at 5:07pm: Thanks, Judy for your comments. We appreciate all the advice we can get.

Comment by Judy on February 25, 2010 at 8:26pm: Birth parent questions - a scary subject for AP's? Parenting Your Adopted Child: Tween, Teens & Beyond

Comment by Judy on February 22, 2010 at 7:24pm: How do you help your child develop an empathetic and nonjudgmental viewpoint of adoption and all it encompasses?
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