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Adoption book giveaway!

Started by Angie Apr 30, 2012.

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Started by Judi B. Apr 4, 2012.

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Comment by Kelsey Stewart on October 4, 2009 at 11:36am
I am a birth mother of three children. I have a daughter in her late teens and twin boys in their mid teens. I fought to have open adoptions and I have been fortunate to watch them grow through pictures and letters from their parents. I do have a relationship with my daughter and I have spent time with her over the years, she was even in my wedding and walked the isle just before I did. I was blessed with two great sets of parents who allowed me to heal and move on with my life with their generousity.

I am now a first time author/illustrator of a childrens book. I was finally brave enough, and ready, to put into words what I was feeling when I made that monumental decission for my children. I hope that this book can help children everywhere understand that adoption is about the LOVE for them, not that they were not wanted. I want them to know that they are loved more than they could ever imagine and it is a very difficult decision for a mother to make. I have had immensely positive reaction to this book and I wanted to share it with you. This book is honest, open and filled with compassion. It may help with that sometimes difficult discussion between parents and their adopted children.

My goal is to tell the positive side of a birth mother's decission. I hope it can help some of you out there.

Thank you ~ Kelsey Stewart, Author The Best For You
If you would like to read my about journey into motherhood, please vistit my fan page on Facebook, Kelsey Stewart
Comment by Shaun on October 4, 2009 at 7:57am
Hey Jd...very sad indeed and it has bothered me quite a bit also . I was told when it comes to adoption, special needs has a total different meaning from textbook or medical terms. Special needs in adoption can mean anything from being AA to even an older child. My social worker says he is a special needs adoption because of his detachment issues which resulted from having no one to cuddle him from birth onwards and the fact that his head was deformed from being in the crib tummy time. It just rips me up inside:(
Comment by Shaun on October 3, 2009 at 9:25pm
Good luck Rebecca and Kirsten!!! Prayers are definitely up for u both.
Rebecca I didn't want to tell my family either but I knew that if it didn't work out they would be the one's I would be turning to. Also I decided I am going for it..birthmom chose you and if she doesn't change her mind then he's all yours so don't hold back and then regret missing celebrating him from day 1. You may hold out until he is born but not until you get papers. I still don't have papers and I have had 2 showers already. No matter what happens Riley will always be my daughter and I would have been honored to have her for the 14 days and would not have missed it for anything or refuse my family the opportunity to meet her. she is so beautiful and sweet and we love her. My dad told me holding back shows lack of faith. I used that as my propeller. hope this helps..sorry for preaching..i'm just sooo happy to have gotten Riley after 7 years of trying everthing.
Comment by Shaun on October 3, 2009 at 9:11pm
OMG! Angela, that is a beautiful poem. I think it depicts what most of us feel after a miscarriage. I feel blessed having Riley. 7 years it took me to realize one of my purposes on this earth.
I am trying to see the positive with the baby D story but cannot. I clearly told my social worker that I cannot adopt a special needs child due to lack of funds and time as both parents need to work. Baby D is a special needs child in a crib for most of his life with little or no contact of course he wouldn't bond. Duh! he doesn't know how to!!! It is our job as adopted parents to know our limits and protect our children. Here again Baby D has been rejected by someone and will never bond with anyone due to lack of trust and consisteny. All the best Baby D. Shame on you Anita for giving up the fight!
Comment by Rebecca Palomino on October 3, 2009 at 7:34pm
We have been matched and I havent said anything to my family. I guess I just don't want to say anything to them until I have him in my arms with papers. Any takes on this?
Comment by Rebecca Palomino on October 3, 2009 at 6:02pm
A few days ago I was introduced to a woman that is looking to place her baby for adoption. I will meet her NOv. 1st. I am a bit nervous about the meeting. It almost seems too good to be true. What are the possibilities that she will actually place with us? She said she had spoken to several couples about adopting but no one fit the bill. Any takes on this?
Comment by Stephanie Bradley on October 3, 2009 at 5:59pm
Good luck Kirsten!!!!!!!!
Comment by Sarah Campbell on October 3, 2009 at 5:33pm
Wow Kirsten, what fabulous news. Prayers are up for you, keep us posted!
Comment by A Sande on October 3, 2009 at 5:25pm
Thinking good thoughts for you Kirsten! Fingers and toes crossed and prayers said.
Comment by Kirsten Knode on October 3, 2009 at 2:11pm
We got a call from a woman last night looking to place her baby for adoption. She is due Oct 12th! She said she'd call us back, but hasn't yet. Please keep praying for us that this situation works out. It would be cool to be parents again in a couple of weeks!

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