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I'm adopted!

This group is for people who are adopted and would like to share their voices and experiences. This group is also for parents who have questions that they would like an adoptee to answer. Don't be shy!

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I just found out that I'm adopted 3 Replies

Started by Amogha Kolluri. Last reply by Robin Silevitch Aug 23.

I hate being adotped 5 Replies

Started by lainey cromwell. Last reply by Dabeshim Dec 13, 2010.

transracial adoption 5 Replies

Started by Kris Holloway. Last reply by Brittany Sep 7, 2010.

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Comment by Ellen Kramers on March 17, 2013 at 5:33am

Hi there, I'm a 19 yr old adoptee from Malaysia. I was adopted by a Dutch family living in Malaysia during that time. Imagine, going from a tropical environment, to a small town in a very cold Holland with all 'whites'. I was 4 yrs old when I asked my mom: "Mommy, why am I brown and you (dad/and their biological son) white?" It was a emotional day for her, she never expected that question so early on. I don't remember being bothered with it though. I started questioning when I was about 8 yrs. I could see it in her eyes it stinged a bit talking about my adoption, but even though she showed me 3 pictures they had made of my bio mom/grandma/grandpa/uncle. And for you other adoptees you probably also had the "Are you going to look for you 'real' family/Isn't it strange?"-questions of others. Around age 16 a got really curious about my roots, but out of loyalty, and feeling somewhat guilty, I kept it quiet. But now, at age 20, I feel like it's the right time and necessary to find out more about my adoption. I can't help but feel there is still a piece missing, a journey I have to make before knowing who I really am. 

And for the parents who are adopting or adopted:

My adoptive parents, are my real parents, and there's nothing that will change that fact.

In my eyes, no mather where you came from, the 2 people who raised you, loved you, supported you, are the parents.

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on January 10, 2013 at 12:31pm

Why I've Been Avoiding My Spiritual Community (Hint: It's Adoption.)

Comment by Judith Land on January 10, 2013 at 12:15pm

How did you feel when you were told that you were adopted? 

“At that moment I needed spontaneous love and assurance because it was disappointing knowing Rosella was not my real mother, but my body language remained rigid, and I reacted tentatively by internalizing my opinions and feelings.” —Judith Land

It was difficult expressing myself because I was uncomfortable. I was baffled about why I was adopted, and curious to know if any of my girlfriends had also been adopted. I was happy knowing that my parents chose me because I was special, but I wondered in hindsight if the deepest part of my brain was already cognizant of our genetic dissimilarities. Knowing that I was adopted caused me to be more aware of my unique individuality and temperament. My dreams and fantasies became dominated by ghostly images of my birth mother and the idea of connecting with her became a spiritual goal. From a humorous standpoint, I was pleased to know I was adopted and quick to distance myself from my adopted parents whenever they did something embarrassing in public. 

Parents with an adopted child wonder whether, when, and how to tell their child that he or she is adopted. They also want to know if adopted children face special problems or challenges.

Comment by michelle on February 25, 2012 at 6:24am

South Carolina Adoptees Face Peculiar Difficulties

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on September 10, 2011 at 9:08am
I recently wrote a blog post called "Double Vision: An Adoptee's View of Family." I'd love to hear from other adoptees whether or not your experience matches mine.
Comment by Aurette Bowes on March 11, 2011 at 12:45am
What's good about being adopted? Find out what I think at
Comment by Aurette Bowes on March 3, 2011 at 1:15am
No, LDAs are not exempt from adoption issues. Read more at
Comment by elaine howell on December 22, 2010 at 8:56pm
Hi,Vonda...found my Birthmom at age 20...I hope your experience continues to be magnificent,but I have to tell you that,just like a brand new marriage,there IS a "honeymoon" period with the Adoption Reunion story,most of the time...just remember that you all are complex people and that you will all feel alot of emotions really fast and sometimse people are not quite sure how to handle it all and back off...I am 48 now,and would loe to share my own reunion story with you...sent you a friend request a little while ago. Please let me know and I wish you all the best!!!--Elaine
Comment by Vonda Blandin on December 21, 2010 at 11:55pm
Hello Group!!! I just joined about a week ago!! I'm 21 and I recently found my birth mother about a month ago, and she introduced me to my sister and now my brother. We're all growing a beautiful relationship. I'm so happy that I've found them, it's like starting a new chapter of my life. If anyone would like to know the rest of my story, or would like info on how I went about doing it, the first meeting, feelings and what not I will be glad to help out! Just send a message or something!
Comment by Karine Mikesell on August 18, 2010 at 1:38pm
I would love thoughts from those who are ADOPTED :)

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