A place for adoptees to speak openly about their experiences with adoption. Adopted parents are welcome to!
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Started by shannon clark May 16, 2010.
Started by Lucinda Wu May 14, 2010.
Started by Pamela Reeves. Last reply by michelle May 10, 2010.
I have recently obtained a copy of my original birth certificate, my name was baby boy, I was given up a birth and my birth mother was not allowed to see me or name me for fear that she would change her mind about giving me up. Now I understand my struggles with abandonment, she too must have struggled with abandonment issues as well. Just having that piece of paper in my hand is so healing. 1956 was a different time and mind set.
I have visited both of my birth parent's graves, and have my father's dog tags, watch and ring, these small gifts have a tremendous effect in filling a hole I have always had within myself, giving me a real powerful sense of who I am.
Ooops, I was born in 1956, sorry for the typeo
I found out I was adopted at age 40, born in 1967, it was kept a secret until that time. In illinois a new law was passed to allow for me to use a special program of DCFS to locate my birth parents if possible. I just last year found my birth mother's younger sister and husband who knew the story of my beginning. I have met her, and two of my half sisters and have been in contact with my birth father's younger sister as well. They never married, a long and interesting story. Both of my birth parents are deceased. Knowing the story has had tremendous healing effect foe me, has explained many things in life for me as well. My parents kept my birth right a secret, and I have strong feelings about that. Times have changed, and open discussion is essential for everyone involved. Laws are changing as well, and there are other ways to find the beginning, I can help.
I always knew I was adopted. I was born in 1957, so this was during the Baby-scoop era. Adoption was, and still is closed. I have no info at all as to where and to whom I was born. I was brought home by my A-parents at about 2 months, adoption was finalized after 3 years. The thinking at the time was that secrecy was the best way to go, my parents (now quite elderly) still believe that. I never asked any questions as a child living the quintessential 1950's life, but now there are nagging questions and I really can't ask anyone. My A-parents would be devastated. My state still has closed records. I have no where to begin looking for answers to my questions. Why did/do people think that secrecy and closed records were a good thing? When will this be changed?
I was born Erica Alyssa... didn't know that til I found my bmom about a year ago. I've never had much of an issue with being an adoptee til I found my bfam at first. It's really hard adjusting to life with two families when you feel you owe so much to both of them.
Anyone else experiencing a difficult merging of families?
I was born sandra but i changed my name to amanda after becoming adopted. i now have found my birth brother but i can't get in touch with him because he has no number and the adresses might not be his either does anyone know what i should do.
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