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Started by Kristine23. Last reply by Michelle Aug 25, 2011.

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Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on January 20, 2012 at 10:33am

There's no clinical or practical evidence to indicate that adoptees or birth parents try to disrupt or interfere with adoptions that include contact. To the contrary, many adoptive families grow stronger, and all of the people involved become more secure, when their relationships cease to be based on fear and fantasy. -- Adam Pertman, Adoption Nation

Love this quote!

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on January 10, 2012 at 9:46am

Best of Open Adoption Blogs 2011

So many great posts!

Comment by Becky Katoa on November 27, 2011 at 10:30pm

Lorrie I hope that you are able to get ahold of them tomorrow. Have they been good about calling and following up in the past?  I don't know why any adoptive parent would suddenly not follow through. Hopefully something came up and it was a simple mistake! I'm sure they love you and are so grateful for you! I know that I am so grateful for my sweet children's biological parents! Hang in there! :)

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on November 27, 2011 at 4:51pm

Ugh! So sorry. I hope it turns out to be a big misunderstanding and everything is resolved soon!

Comment by Corrine Christian on November 25, 2011 at 7:55am

holidays are BUSY but YES, if she said she'd call, It hurts! If she doesn't call you today or over the weekend- please contact your agency and work through new terms of your openness agreement. Once and a while Adoptive parents will say one thing before placement and do another after placement. If they do not keep their end of the openness plan- most agencies will BAN them from adopting again, b/c KEEPING YOUR WORD with your Birth Family is HUGE. How do you trust someone who is going to lie??? BUT, Let's just hope they forgot and got a new number ( better plan, cheaper rates etc.) and give them the benefit of the doubt! Hang in there and then contact your agency/attorney etc...

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on November 24, 2011 at 5:16pm

Hi Lorrie. I don't have any advice or anything, but I just wanted to post something quickly to say I can understand why this would be upsetting and I'm sorry to hear you are having to experience it. I hope you hear from them soon. Hugs to you!

Comment by Rebecca Hawkes on October 9, 2011 at 2:12pm

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Comment by Corrine Christian on April 11, 2011 at 7:43am

Valerie- FIND A MEDIATOR asap! Someone who can act as a counselor with only the best interest of the child- you might need to pay for this but, it will be worth it. Then have a sit down with that mediator present- let them introduce themselves and say that you are all here to work out what is bets for your child and build a base of common trust etc... Works wonders but all parties must live up to their sides of the agreement. God luck and god bless!


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Comment by Michelle on January 12, 2011 at 4:13pm

My mother has another adopted grandchild, but it is closed from Russia.  Not open and domestic and from foster care.  So, for her, it is so much easier to be the only maternal grandmother and not to have to deal with another family.  Seems cleaner to her.  But unlike my sister, that is not the arrangement I made. 

My husband has three mixed race siblings adopted in the early seventies and late sixties, although he is not adopted.  His parents were very pleased when we told them we were adopting from foster care.  As though he had validated their choice and somehow continued their religious work.  We are not religious.  Just wanted a third child.                                         


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