South Korean Adoption

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Comment by Ola Zuri on February 7, 2010 at 12:17am

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Comment by Elizabeth W. on November 11, 2009 at 3:27pm

We are leaving in the morning for South Korea to meet our 2.5 year old son! Words cannot tell how excited we are! We will be blogging the entire time. Follow along if you would like:
www.romanseightfifteen.blogspot.com
Elizabeth

Comment by Yoli Collazo on November 9, 2009 at 10:11pm

Thanks for sharing that article Peter.

Comment by Peter Moran on November 9, 2009 at 7:08am

Great article in today's New York Times
http://www.nytimes.com/2009/11/09/us/09adopt.html

Comment by Mary Dreesen on November 4, 2009 at 9:50am

Just found out that Korea has met their quota for granting EP for the rest of the year. So sad as this means we will have to wait until after the first of the year before we will get EP and bring our sweet boy home. I can at least be happy knowing our son is in a loving foster home and being well taken care of. Just sad we will miss his 1st birthday and celebrate his Tol. The process with our first son was not nearly this long so we weren't expecting this - but as we all know the international adoption process is full of surprises.

Comment by Peter Moran on October 30, 2009 at 12:29pm

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Comment by Yoli Collazo on October 28, 2009 at 7:22am

Jesse thank you for sharing your story. It is utterly heartbreaking and you deserved better, you were just a little kid. I hope that you have found some sort of peace. I am glad you are here.

Comment by Jesse P. on October 27, 2009 at 9:55pm

Hey all, Im Jesse im new to this group. I was adopted from Korea at 9 months and just turned 25. I noticed there are more adopters than adoptees as members in this group which seemed kinda odd. I guess everybody involved in adoption knows a different side to the same story and it makes sense that the adoptive parents can present there issues with less concern for judgement on what they express. Im not here to do you harm, I guess im just here to share my experience with you and maybe give you some insight and im sure I could get a new persepective on things from your experiences and outlook. In a way I suppose the main reason im speaking out is to help myself but it could also give people who just adopted a heads up on certain situations when dealing with an adopted child. Well I was adopted by a caucasion family a mother father and 2 bio siblings. My mothers motivation to adopt me at the time was to fill in a gap left by her miscarriage Which was an illness that I was unable to heal. Unfortuantely she found that out after the whole process was over. Years went by and by age 5 both my a-parents were alcoholics more so with my a-father. Things went downhill at even a faster rate which led to a divorce. They decided to share custody with us on a week by week basis which was pretty confusing to me at my young age. Well eventually things wore off, both parents wanted to move on and trying to ditch us kids with each other. My dad would take us to our moms and never come back and the same with my mom. They attempted this at least 6-7 times all together before I was 10. By the time I hit 11 my mom decided that maybe she would just suck it up and be a parent. This was only after my dad almost died from alcohol on a 8 months drinking binge where he would drink and sleep non stop. It got to the point where I had to steal money from the bar we used to work at to support me and my older brother. Not really work..just threw bottles away in the dumpster so we could get lunch. the whole 2 years we were there he didn't have us enrolled in school. Thats when my mom decided that she was going to take custody. So me and my brother packed up our things and headed to N.C. The last words I heard from my father was "how could you do this to me" Luckily I was the only one to hear it and my brother (his biological son) wasn't present at the time. People have said a few things to me in my past..but nothing that lingered around like those words he told me Especially after I heard he had died from alcohol related illness at age 16. Well once we moved to N.C. things were going good it seemed my mom had gotten herself together but still in the presence of her abusive boyfriend she has had since right after the divorce. As with alot of things in our family, that didn't last long either. She ended up going back to the bar everyday and leaving us kids to raise ourselves. Things eventually got better but only once we started receieving social security checks from my a-fathers death. Those checks were signed over and spent by my mom. Where that 1600 dollars a month went im not to sure. I know it didnt go towards mortagage payments because the rent was only 275 a month and we weren't eating that well. At age 18 I ended up moving out and started a life of my own. The funny thing is the responsibility of it all was nothing new to me..maybe thats one good thing I pulled out of this mess. Im sorry if I skipped out on any details. There so much more involved but I think I gave a good enough description and the rest you can prolly imagine. For all the people that are thinking of adoption or have adopted please care for your children no matter the obstacles. My mom told me that she had know idea what she was getting herself into when she adopted me. If somebody is to take responsibility for someone elses child I hope that you have more heart and courage than to back away from a child expecting a better life with hope. That is what adoptive parents tell there adopted children isn't it? When my a-mother tells me that it would have alot more impact on me if she could back it up. From what i've read on adoption The most comforting thing about it is acceptance of it all. Knowing that a child accepts you as there mother and the mother accepts you as there child.

Comment by Mary Dreesen on July 9, 2009 at 6:52pm

Yes they are!!!! :-)

Comment by Carissa A Haning on July 9, 2009 at 6:48pm

Referrals are always so much fun! Congrats!

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