Transracial Adoption

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Comment by Mary Boyle on July 12, 2010 at 10:09am

Oh Michelle, I agree! There is so much to consider when thinking of interracial adoption. Like adoption as a whole, interracial adoption can be a beautiful, wonderful thing, but we have to be educated and informed of the pitfalls that can occur.

Comment by Michelle on July 12, 2010 at 9:59am

Mary, your kids are beautiful! I agree that talking about it from an early age so that they can express their feelings is a good idea. Also, for any child, being adopted and part of a real family is so much better than languishing in foster care. So, I don't want to appear opposed to transracial adoption. I'm not at all. But I do think there are issues that can't be ignored.

Comment by Mary Boyle on July 12, 2010 at 9:34am

Rebecca, we haven't had any racism toward our kids, but they do notice the color difference between us and them. And they notice that other kids aren't different colors than their parents. This is something you'll need to be talking about from a very early age.

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Comment by Rebecca on July 7, 2010 at 9:09am

Thank you Michelle for sharing your experience. We are actually trying to be more open with our adoption preferences. We already are working with an agency but they do not seem to have the flow of birthmothers that others do. We've been looking at other agencies and this is one of the programs we can afford.

Comment by Michelle on July 7, 2010 at 8:54am

Rebecca,

In my opinion, you wouldn't notice issues regarding racism until the child is a little older. So the boy that seems untouched by racism in your community is not unusual. When it comes to dating, etc., things start to change.

My husband's parents adopted three children who were bi-racial. They lived in an all white and loving community. All three of my siblings would say it was not so great to be in that situation.

There are so many children who are not African American to be adopted. Why would you limit your focus? My in-laws limited their focus because in the late 60s and early 70s, it was nearly impossible to find a family for a bi-racial child.

If you do decide to go forward with the adoption, you might consider moving to a more diverse area or expanding your circle of friends and family. In any event, good luck!

Michelle

Comment by Rebecca on July 6, 2010 at 9:38am

I've been looking into a AA/Biracial adoption program. We live in eastern Idaho in a population predominately Caucasian with some Hispanics. Our family is all Caucasian with the exception of my brother-in-law who is part Native American. We were thinking about adopting a half Caucasian child so we would share part of their heritage. Will it affect them not being around anyone of color? In our neighborhood we have an adopted AA boy and I haven't noticed any problems with racism toward him.

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