Well-adjusted adoptees!

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Comment by Jody M. Moreen on January 11, 2013 at 6:52pm

Hi Catherine from Jody in Naperville. I lead an adoption triad support group that meets on the 3rd Thursday of every month from 7 to 9pm at the Evangelical Covenant Church of Hinsdale on Garfield, 2 blocks from the train station- Adult adoptees, birth parents and adoptive parents meet and share experiences- we embrace adoption and encourage people in the emotions and search and reunion and navigating the life-long journey. A very friendly and positive group - not sure how close you live- but feel free to join us!

Comment by Catherine Corbett on January 11, 2013 at 6:58am

Hi I'm from Chicago Il and I am a adoptee. I think I have been on every site on the internet. Happy to see "Happy" adoptee who embrace adoption :) I would like to find my birth mother to find out my medical history and see what she look's like and to Thank Her. I have a wonder family and a great husband (who is also a adoptee) and 4 awesome kids. Thanks for a site that is not negative.

Comment by Jody M. Moreen on February 13, 2012 at 9:35am

Hi From Jody from Chicagoland western suburbs of IL, a reunited adoptee who was blessed to be placed in a caring foster home and adopted at 9 mos. of age. I am always pleased to find groups that embrace and celebrate adoption as the beautiful option in crisis pregnancies or circumstances where birth parents have chosen not to parent their child. I have navigated the internet adoption communities for way over a decade and have noted the negative biases on adoption which grieves me. I have lead adoption triad support groups in Indiana and since 1998 in Chicagoland suburbs. My position is always that I celebrate my adoption and my birth parents choice of Life. And yet I recognize that many were adopted, especially in the closed adoption era, have to sort out complex feelings, questions and have a need to discuss and gather the missing pieces of their adopted life for peace and closure. My adoptive mother blessed me by mentoring me in the Christian faith which has blanketed my life and allowed me to see how God allowed my adoption for my ultimate good and to encourage others in their adoption journey. I host a couple internet groups- one here on Adoption Voices- a Christian faith based one, and a private active Adoptee group for female adoptees on Facebook- also one that encourages, inspires and offers a safe place for sharing, encouragement, prayer and a daily devotional.  I also am a free-lance writer and have written adoption articles, devotions and compiled a book- "Letters and Reflections to My Adopted Daughters" originally penned in thee 1700's in England-famous hymn writer of "Amazing Grace: & pastor John Newton reflections and letters to his 2 orphaned nieces. Its great to join some groups wherei I am not the host and can enjoy the fellowship with other adoptees! Thanks Katie for hosting a group like this where we can truly celebrate being adoptees and sharing our journeys!

 

Comment by redhillchris79 on January 9, 2012 at 4:55pm

 Hi to all. Im new and hope to find friends and adoptees that can broaden my mind on understanding etc and also i hope that maybe my personal experience on being an adoptee can do the same for others. 

My mother was 18 when she gave birth to me, but was almost forced into giving me up for adoption. Hinestly, she diodnt have a place to live and was working in a local supermarket. My birth father and my mother had split before they knew of the pregnancy. Afterwards he moved away and showed no interest in me. My adoption parents where friends of my doctor, who informed them that an 18 year old single mother was thinking of placing a baby ( me ) into adoption. Basically, he fed my mother and grandmother a pack of lies in order to get my mother to go through with the adoption. I think that this is cruel. I now feel as though my life has been a facade or a lie. I have never been told about my story by my adoption parents, all i know is from family members AND from my mother whom i met in November 2011 along with my sister. They are both lovely and im so happy that i found them and we are in touch on a daily basis as I live in Spain and they live in Scotland. More about me to be read on my profile statement, if anyone is interested or can relate to my story.

Comment by Katie DeCosse on June 16, 2011 at 10:42am

YAY!!!! I have been neglecting this page because there seemed to be so little interest from those of us who have positive things to say about adoption! I am thrilled with the sudden interest and will be much more proactive and involved!! Thank you to those of you who are new as well as those of you who have hung in. I have joined several other groups and have even left some because they are not a good fit for me. Let's share our good stuff!!!!

Comment by Campbell on June 16, 2011 at 10:35am

FYI

 

Campbell's Scoop

 

I've just resurrected this FB page if anyone here is interested. There just doesn't seem to be anywhere that's safe for some adopted people to talk about adoption without being attacked.

 

 

Comment by Olivia Grace on June 16, 2011 at 9:51am

I never understood why it was so wrong for me to be so happy about adoption? I feel like those of us who have been happy about adoption or just had positive experiences in general get pushed to the side.  So glad this group exists!

Comment by Katie DeCosse on June 16, 2011 at 9:18am

Welcome Deborah! My experiences in searching for fellow adoptees with whom I can relate are very similar to yours. Lots of anger and unhappy people although some of their stories are pretty horrific. My growing up years were not "perfect" and actually probably pretty typical for any "normal" family. In the big picture, I grew up where I was meant to be and without that I would not be the person I am today! And I like this person! In reunion, I have built a fabulous relationship with my birthmother and several other "new" family members. Some of still very reluctant but I have come to accept that and let it go. Afterall, I made it 50 years without any of them and know I can carry on without. I look forward to hearing more of your story and am glad to have you in this group!

Comment by Deborah T on June 15, 2011 at 7:23pm

I am so excited to be a part of this group. It has not been my experience that adoptees who attend adoptee groups (be it support or social) are very happy or well-adjusted individuals. While I have had some unfortunate and unpleasant experiences in my life, I do not believe any of them have been a result of my being adopted. I love my adoptive family and nothing will every change that. I am recently reunited with several members of my birthfamily and have a very close relationship with several of them. With other members it is a little more superficial at this point, but I hope to spend more time together so we may be able to know each other better. I am eager to hear about other positive adoption experiences. Blessings!

Comment by Barbara Willmore on June 18, 2010 at 12:06pm

I was adopted when I was 5 days old. Back then it was always closed. My parents brought me up being very open & honest about my adoption. I knew kids in my class that were adopted so I NEVER felt anger or confusion about being adopted. My Dad always told me that they would help me find my bio mother whenever I wanted. I remember going to a support group for adult adoptees bc I thought I was going to start looking for my bio mother. I was VERY surprised that the facilitator was saying that we should basically be angry for being abandoned. It was interesting to hear about how some had finally met their bio mothers. I had no desire, however, to go back. When I turned 40 I found my bio Uncle and his wife (who has the same name as my bio mother) and she gave me a little updated info. Through the wonders of the internet and a $50 people search and I was able to find my bio mother. I sent her a brief note bc I still wasn't sure it was her. I told her that she made the right choice and I have no negative feelings about her. About a month ago I received a note from her! She told me she was shunned by her friends & family, had to go away until I was born and was always worried that I would judge her. It's very surreal, I have yet to write back. I'm going to see my folks next week and will bring the two letters I received to share with them. Now I am hoping to adopt a child to complete my family!

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