"Frank, wea are all clearly aware that there are consequences and issues to every decision. Please try not to spread your negativity. We are here to support each other. Not that things should all be sunshine and roses, but smacking someone in the…"
"Missy, I just wanted to share our experience with our DD's BF. He also said " he knew his rights" that he "would fight us all the way" he "wouldn't let his daughter go" I even got threatening emails saying he…"
"One more thing Kim, as Leslie has said, don't let your age be a factor in when you stop. I was 46 when we finally found our baby girl, DH was 40. In the beginning I felt a little out of place with other Mom's at the park…"
"Hi Kim. All I can offer is our story and my personal feelings on the wait. We found out the first year we were married that we would be unable to be parents in the traditional sense. This was so difficult, since I am one of six children and DH is…"
We successfully adopted our baby girl, Tessa Savanna Rose born on March 22, 2010. We were blessed by our 4th birthmother match and were there to see our daughter born, bond in the hospital and have a wonderful birthmother relationship.
Such an awesome story they wrote about your journey, and one I really needed to hear. We are at the two failed adoption waiting almost two year mark....such a great thing to open up my email to...a success story!! Thank you for sharing!
Amen, thanks for defending the BIG WAIT group. It bums me out when people treat the one place we can use for support in that way. Your little girl is ADORABLE! So happy for you. :) I love happy adoption stories. :)
A birth mother from our past (she chose us a year ago, but we turned down the situation because she was only 50% sure she would go through with it- she didn't) emailed me last week. She has a friend due in March that is considering adoption. It's a messy situation also. The bm was or is on drugs and doesn't feel like bothering to make an adoption plan. She would rather they just take the baby away- she has another daughter that got taken away from her and she couldn't have cared less. It's so frustrating- her friends are trying to persuade her to take the time to contact the agency, but she just doesn't care. It makes me so sad. She doesn't want the baby- we've been waiting for a baby...
Anyway, I'll pray for you and hope the bf comes around.
Yeah, you can pro rate the fee, but with all that we have been through we have decided that we won't be doing that...it's funny we were just letting our contract run out not thinking it would happen again but then this bmom came to us. It's a whole crazy journey!
We're in Palatine, not far from you. We started last summer. I thought we would have had a possible match by now, but so far we haven't. I'm surprised that you have gone through 3 previous matches. Is that normal? That sounds so difficult to go through. Angel told us that we should be prepared to wait 17 months before a birthmom picks us, but I can't help but be impatient.
I will pray for your match and send you good vibes. If it doesn't work out, can't you pro-rate your fee on a month to month basis? That was our back-up plan if we don't get matched within 24 months.
Thanks for the information Julie. I grew up in Sycamore but currently live in Northwest Indiana (La Porte). A community about the same size as Sycamore. I was in Chicago until I met my hubby and fell madly in love! :) We've been in our adoption search for a little over a year. Have talked to a few people but nothing ever seems to work out. Making us feel like the adoption process has been harder then the infertility issues. But we have faith that we will be parents one day (soon we hope).