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Laura Clarke
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I guess you have to go with your heart on this one. There's always the things to look at like how long the couple has been married, are they financially secure, and so on....but to me...it would be more like how well you "connect" with the couple. T…
Congrats! I can't answer your question on whether any possible parent is ever going to be good enough in your eyes. This is a tough decision and it sounds like you are bonded to these little kiddos and maybe the fact you haven't been drawn to a fami…
Congratulations! Our children are only two days apart! Our son was born March 27th!
Laura,
Congrats on your twins! That's so exiting! If you haven't taken a look at my profile online, I'd love for you to. We have tons of baby girl clothes from my daughter, and then we just bought a bunch of baby boy clothes to prepare for the baby…
Wow!! Big day for twins. My sister's twin boys were born on the 25th too! Congrats!
I wish the best for you and your babies! Are their specific qualities that you are looking for in parents?
Yes,Its been awhile since I have been here but here I am. On March 25th the arrival of Jonathan and Isabella blessed me. They were born only 2mins apart and 8weeks early. They started out on oxygen and IV'S and now are thriving. They have yet to bot…
There may or may not be a tactful way of getting your point across. At the end of the day its racial profiling. Its wrong and obviously it offends you.
Would she or they want to be termed as "white trash" ?
I highly doubt it and it doesnt matter wha…
This is a group for anyone who has or is considering adopting children of a race other than their own
I am glad to hear that your doctor's appointment went well. I know that it's always good to get positive news, especially in a maelstrom of frustration and chaos. I hope that the journey is at least getting somewhat easier now that you are becoming…
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- I am a birthmom (pregnant) due 5/24 with twins. I am still searching for a family.
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The arrival ............
Yes,Its been awhile since I have been here but here I am. On March 25th the arrival of Jonathan and Isabella blessed me. They were born only 2mins apart and 8weeks early. They started out on oxygen and IV'S and now are thriving. They have yet to bottle feed as they wont experience that until 34weeks but its only days away. They are gaining weight and are soooo cute. I have yet to find a family and so while the twins are still in the NICU I visit almost daily.
Question is.... How do you know… Continue
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Posted on April 8, 2010 at 2:29pm — 6 Comments
Another day...
I had yet another ultrasound today. I have them every 2 weeks. All is well and babies are just fine.
I have learned a great deal about the adoption world in my short time being involved in it and I cant express how frustrating and unsettling it can be.
I am very fortunate to have a wonderful attorney at my side,some days I don't know what I would do without her. I have come across many wonderful people looking to help and wanting to adopt but I have also learned that it is far more complicated t… Continue
I have learned a great deal about the adoption world in my short time being involved in it and I cant express how frustrating and unsettling it can be.
I am very fortunate to have a wonderful attorney at my side,some days I don't know what I would do without her. I have come across many wonderful people looking to help and wanting to adopt but I have also learned that it is far more complicated t… Continue
Posted on February 1, 2010 at 6:46pm — 8 Comments
My unsettling journey....
I am 6mos pregnant with twins. I have not found a family as of yet....and actually wondering if I ever will. No one ever tells yu the truth behind adoption. Partly because everyone who has been touched by it has had a different experience. Some it is wonderful....an extension of their family. Others it is heartbreaking.
Mine to date has not been a peaceful or even hopeful journey. I contacted an agency a few months ago and was under the impression that they had my best interest at heart...not so… Continue
Mine to date has not been a peaceful or even hopeful journey. I contacted an agency a few months ago and was under the impression that they had my best interest at heart...not so… Continue
Posted on January 25, 2010 at 6:41am — 12 Comments
Comment Wall (27 comments)
- At 8:11pm on April 11, 2010,
aliza said…
- HI Laura,
I sent you a message and would love to know more about what you are looking for in adoptive parents. please e-mail me elle3543@aim.com
aliza
- At 2:43pm on April 8, 2010,
Mary Boyle said…
- Hi Laura, I sent you a friend request. Congrats on the little ones doing well! Hope to talk to you soon.
:) Mary
- At 1:51pm on February 6, 2010,
Alisha said…
- Hi Laura,
How is everything? I read through your blog posts and that seems very frustrating! I kinda know what you mean about the agency thing though. It seems like it's a business. There a lot of agency's around here that have babies all the time but we dont have 20-30 grand...so therefore we cant even contact them. Were with ldsfamily services have you heard of them?
- At 3:21am on February 5, 2010,
Sharon Ramsey said…
- Thank you for accepting my friendship. I am praying for you daily and hope all is going well with you. Take care and drop me a line just to talk if you want.
- At 10:45am on February 4, 2010,
Megan Hilton said… - Hi Laura, I just noticed and read through your blog posts. Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you. I am saddened that you've had such a difficult journey so far! I will be thinking of you and praying that you can find peace. It made me very sad to hear that you were actually turned away by an agency -- nothing makes me more frustrated than an agency who can't help a prospective birth mother. There are SO many families all over the country praying to grow through the blessing of adoption, and many of them are families who would be more than delighted to welcome twins and love and respect birth parents. At the very least, an agency should do all they can to refer you to other agencies who have couples waiting and ready. Again, there is NO shortage of hopeful adoptive families here! It certainly does make it feel like too much of a business sometimes. As an adoptive mother, it makes me so frustrated that their fees are so incredibly high that people can't afford to grow their family! You should have tons of families to choose from!
I am glad you have an attorney you feel comfortable with and I hope you have all of your needs met. I know there are a lot of wonderful families hoping to adopt who revere birth parents in their homes and would live up to their word (my hubby and I have many, many friends who fit this description). I sure will be hoping that you can find the right family for you to feel hope in choosing adoption! Best wishes!
By the way, the thought just occurred to me...have you checked out any of the profile sites online? Our daughter's birth mother found us in August via parentprofiles.com. You can browse through couples there or at many other sites online that have prospective adoptive couples listed.
- At 8:28am on February 4, 2010,
Hallie Owens said… - Laura,
We are currently with an agency but we are also willing to just use an attorney. Please check out our blog at http://lookingtoadoptagain.blogspot.com or you can eamil us at lookingtoadopt@gmail.com
- At 1:52am on February 4, 2010,
Sharon Ramsey said…
- Dear Laura,
Greetings from the other side of the country. I don't have much more to say to you than any of the others have said to you. I also have had a difficult journey through the adoption process. I have had a difficult journey through life too. I am a disabled adult, who now lives in a wheelchair most of the time. I married my husband late in life, that's why I was never able to have children the natural way. However this does not mean I can't raise them. I have had to retire from teaching mostly because my body (and spirit) got tired of dealing with the discrimination that exists in our society against people with disabilities. It also exists in the social welfare system. I have run into it as a foster parent when I was single and since with one agency now that I am married. But enough about me. I think I can understand people running scared in the adoption process, maybe entering into the deal thinking wow a single child, but no we don't want two, or maybe this is too much responsibility. I was a special ed. teacher and I ran into that problem a lot. I've done a lot of talking here, so anytime you want to chat just send me a message or anything. You don't even have to want me as an adoptive parent. I am just willing to be an open ear, truly honest. Oh, I didn't tell in my free time I am a sunday school pastor, so when I say honest I really mean it. I'll be praying for you no matter what.
- At 8:24pm on February 3, 2010,
Lorraine and Daniel said… - Hi Laura,
We share your frustration with the adoption process. Adoption is such a wonderful thing, but somehow the process does not appropriately reflect the love that comes from birthmothers and adoptive parents. In any event, once you get past the shock of dealing with the annoying parts, everyone tells me it all works out somehow. So please hang in there. You are doing everything right. You are on the right path and soon you will see the light. I wish you all the best in your search and invite you to visit our web site, http://www.adoption-is-love.com.
With love,
-Lorraine and Daniel
- At 2:42pm on February 3, 2010,
Kenny and Lori Tomka said… - Sending prayers and thoughts your way!!! Stay strong!!!
- At 2:31pm on February 3, 2010,
Alisha said…
- Thank you! I know things will work out when they are supposed to. I didn't realize how hard it was on the birth parents as well. It's a huge decision so you need to feel completely at peace with it. What are some of your bad experiences just curious?
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