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Vonda Blandin
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Vonda Blandin commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Hey Guys!!!!
"@ Michelle and Holly: Thank you so much for that advice. I do cherish it so much. It feels good to have people to understand what I am going through and give me feed back on it and what not. Most times I don't think anybody will understand…"
Apr 11, 2011
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Apr 9, 2011
michelle commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Hey Guys!!!!
"I'm really sorry you're feeling this way Vonda.  Do you know other adoptees you can reach out to?  The truth is you are NOT alone.  Many adoptees express feelings of ambivilence in regards to reunion.  It's very…"
Apr 9, 2011
Holly Kaufman commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Hey Guys!!!!
"Vonda, you do not have to - do not need to - apologize for how you feel. Ever. They are your feelings from your experience. You have a right to them. Adoption is different for everyone, and it is NOT your fault how things turned out for you. Other…"
Apr 8, 2011
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Hey Guys!!!!

Long time since I've been on the site and I do hope that everyone is doing well! It's the beginning of spring and also the beginning of allergy season :-/ I'm like a walking zombie. Uh. I hate it. I'm currently sitting at work bored, so I thought I'd blog a bit about some feelings, but a few rants and what nots that I have and what's been going on with the whole birth family situation. The "birth" FamilyI feel like, they haven't put forth enough effort. Like, I kinda feel like it was a waste of…See More
Apr 5, 2011
Vonda Blandin commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"Thanks deborah! I'm just not talking to them right now. And I've decided if they ask me what's wrong and what nots I'm just going to tell them that I refuse to be anybodys secret any longer. I've gone too much of my life…"
Mar 3, 2011
Deborah Allred commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"I would also recommend talking to your adoptive mother about your feelings. It may be hard, but I think it would be better if she knew. How will anything change if she doesn't know?   As a birth mother I am terrified that my son will…"
Mar 2, 2011
Vonda Blandin commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"Thanks guys for all of your support. I'm still not sure what I'm going to do. I haven't really talked to anyone about it. My Adoptive mom keeps asking about them and how things are going, and wants to know why I am not currently…"
Feb 26, 2011
Ashleigh commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
""I have come to realize she will never see me as she sees her kept children. She loves me I think. But they will ALWAYS come first and that’s painful" You know, I find this really interesting (as well as incredibly sad). For me, I…"
Feb 24, 2011
Benjamin commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"I'm just going to sort of echo what the other two ladies have said, and mainly Elena. The other people involved may very well be that way. I'm in the process of placing, and my parents would rather see me keep my child. I'm willing to…"
Feb 23, 2011
Elena commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"I agree that everything should be out in the open now that you have found each other.  From her viewpoint maybe she thinks the people she would tell are insensitive and might hurt her or you with their opinions.  I hope you are able to…"
Feb 23, 2011
Ashleigh and Vonda Blandin are now friends
Feb 23, 2011
Ashleigh commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"No problem! Thats what we are all here for :)"
Feb 23, 2011
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Feb 23, 2011
Vonda Blandin left a comment for elaine howell
"Hey! I've been waiting on you to tell me about your adpotion story, and about the "Honeymoon Phase" that you have mentioned! lol, I haven't been on here in awhile, but I do look foward to hearing from you. Talk to you soon!"
Feb 23, 2011
Vonda Blandin commented on Vonda Blandin's blog post Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...
"Ashleigh,  thank you for the comment and it has helped me see some insight on the issue from her viewpoint. I guess I just never really thought about it in that fashion. I think that counseling sounds like a great idea! You have been a major…"
Feb 23, 2011

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My birthmother was 19 when she had me. She already had a 19 month old and she didn't think she could afford another baby. She lived at home with her parents, and concealed her pregnancy from everyone the entire time. She had me that morning and left the hospital that night. She regreted the adoption after she told her ex's parents about me and that they would help raise me, but by that time she couldn't get me back. She wrote me several letters and that's all I heard from her until I recently found her.

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Hey Guys!!!!

Long time since I've been on the site and I do hope that everyone is doing well! 

It's the beginning of spring and also the beginning of allergy season :-/ I'm like a walking zombie. Uh. I hate it. I'm currently sitting at work bored, so I thought I'd blog a bit about some feelings, but a few rants and what nots that I have and what's been going on with the whole birth family situation.

 

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Posted on April 2, 2011 at 5:28pm — 3 Comments

Lately I've been feeling, like I don't belong, like the ground's not mine to walk upon...

 

I've been feeling this way for quite some time now, and it's taken me awhile to admit this. Though I won't tell anyone that I am close to...Most days I regret ever finding my birth mother.

 

Yes, it has been great, and yes they are lovely people, her my bio brother and sister. But at then end of the day...I'm still upset and in a very dark place. I'm mainly upset with her for STILL not wanting to tell her family about me. It's like after all of these years, I am still…

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Posted on February 21, 2011 at 7:16pm — 9 Comments

Time kills Pain?

That's what they say, but I beg to differ. 

So, I'm going to stay with my birth mother on Thursday - Saturday. And then just chill, hang out, and see what her and my brother (who I will meet for the first time) and my sister (Whom I've been getting really close with because she lives here) is gonna come up and spend the days with us too. I am also going to go and visit my birth fathers family for the first time, I'm really excited about that. 

 

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Posted on December 21, 2010 at 11:41pm — 4 Comments

To ALL who has supported me...

Thanks to everyone for your wonderful responses and support. It really does mean a lot to me. Good luck to you all in whatever stage you are in your adoption story. I wish you the best for the holidays.

Once again Thanks.

<3 Vee

Posted on December 13, 2010 at 5:35pm

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At 8:33pm on January 18, 2011, Susie said…

Wow!  You got to see your mom on your birthday?!  I can't imagine how wonderful that had to be ~ for both of you.  

About the books.  Maybe next time she mentions anything about having a tough time with your adoption, you can mention that you know a first mom that read a couple of books that really helped her, that you could find out the names if she wants.  Make it something light, and if she wants to take you up on the suggestion, it would be more like her choice, not you telling her she should read them.   

 

Again, I am so happy for you!  And Happy Birthday too :D

At 8:11pm on December 10, 2010, Courtney L said…

Thanks for the add!  I hope your meeting with your bio sister went super well!  can't wait to hear about it!

At 8:21pm on December 7, 2010, Heather said…
Con gratulations! I'm sure that others searchign will love to hear yoru story. What a wonderful xmas gift!
At 11:08pm on November 30, 2010, Heather said…
Welcome To AV! What avenues did you use to find your birthmom? I'm sure there are some on here who would love to try the same thing. Looking forward to reading more about your journey and your experiences.
At 7:23pm on November 29, 2010, Mary Boyle said…
Welcome to AV! :)
 
 
 

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