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I woke up that morning paralyzed by fear and dread. It had been just under two months since my then foster daughter had moved into our house -- two intense months that had turned my life upside down. Two months of her almost-daily meltdowns: I'd been physically attacked; I'd been called a "f**king b**ch." I'd watched my biological daughter transform from a happy, open child, excited about getting a new sister, to an angry, cornered animal who believed her life had been ruined by the…

Please join WACAP and Resources4adoption.com for a Free Adoption Financing Webinar on Monday, May 7, 2012. 

Time: 11 AM PDT, 1 PM CST, 2 PM EASTERN.

ADOPTION LOANS will be the focus of this webinar. 

Our special guests will include representatives from two organizations that offer Adoption Loans - America’s Christian Credit Union and A Child Waits Foundation. Ask questions and get the answers you…

My brother called to tell me about this song.  Most adoptive parents struggle with the financial burden of adoption and most of us do fundraisers and stress over the finances.  The artist's mother sold her wedding ring so the family could afford to bring his sister home.  It's a beautiful song that really shines a light on what love means.  I had to share it with all of you.…

I’m on a new eating plan at the moment – quite a radical one for me actually. It means I have to change my whole approach to food which has been hard. It’s made me think once again about my kids and how many radical changes they have had in their short lives. The fact that the decisions made for them are intended for the best (like my eating plan) it doesn’t mean they are easy for the children.…

When we were going through the matching process for adoption I held the belief that keeping siblings together at all costs was a good thing…..I haven’t necessarily changed on this belief but I have seen areas where sibling rivalry takes a new form! All siblings argue I’m told many times by others and of course this is true. I remember fighting and arguing with my brother and have seen many others families bicker and squabble together.…

Let me start by telling you that we're new to the world of adoption, so we're still learning how the process works. And part of learning something new is coming across unfamiliar terminology.

The phrase "waiting family" made me pause when I first saw it. Apparently, it's a term commonly used to refer to people interested in adopting a child. When I first read the phrase, I realized it would be used to refer to us, too, now that we're starting the process to adopt our own child(ren).…

Wondering about potential changes to the Federal Adoption Tax credit? 

You can listen to yesterday's recorded webinar presented by Resources4Adoption.com and Holt International, along with Joe Kroll, Executive Director of NACAC - who will discuss the Federal Adoption Tax Credit in 2012 and its potential changes in the future. Here is the link courtesy of Holt International:…

Here are the three things that you should consider before looking for adoption grants:

1.  Application Eligibility Criteria

Nearly all adoption grant…

No one has heard from me in a long time from here. Well here is whats went on in the last year. I went back to my daughters (the one i gave up for adoption) father. Got my oldest daughter moved back in with me and a few months later I find out she is pregant. First thing she tells me is mom I'm pregant and I want an abotion. Well I am against abortions so I faught with her and she decided to keep…

“All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on” – Henry Ellis

There are many decisions we have to make every day.  What breakfast to eat, what to wear, what to do with our time, where to go, who to see – loads of things that seem quite small and insignificant. There are also the decisions we take about…

By: Elizabeth Nelson, MSW, Home Study Coordinator for MLJ Adoptions

Healthy attachment is crucial for children to be able to grow into adults that can successfully navigate their world. Healthy attachment allows for appropriate trust, self control and problem solving skills. Attachment theories provide that all babies have needs and they each provide signs to their caretaker regarding what those needs are. When the need is…

There are times when I would love to scream I’M A MOTHER GET ME OUT OF HERE, when my three demanding and needy children can not leave me alone, when they insist on squabbling with each other all day, when they are screaming or singing at the top of their voices, or like yesterday when we are at a restaurant and they can not settle so we can have a nice meal together. Of course a lot of this they can’t help and it is…

It’s my birthday tomorrow and …….. I’m sure I won’t cry. I’m not ashamed to say I’ve reached the ripe old age of 42 – not ashamed but I am a bit sad – I am now well and truly in my 40′s…half my life gone already. What it has made me think about though this week is my children.  When I look back on my life I have been blessed. I’ve had a great family upbringing, relatively good school life, bounced around jobs until eventually found my passion.…

“I’m not like other 9 years old”, “I don’t have a normal family”, “I’m not a normal parent”……on and on – our children may say it, we may say it but this week this concept of being ‘normal’ has struck me in two different ways.

Before I mention what those two ways are let’s explore the word normal. It’s always grated on me when I hear people use that word – What is normal?? I heard…

Since I’ve become a parent I’ve been aware of the feeling of being under scrutiny from others. Whether this is a ‘normal’ feeling as a parent or something unique to adoption I don’t know. Of course none of us as parents know what we’re doing most of the time, at least we feel like we don’t. We may have had great role models in our own parents but still struggle with the confusion that is parenting. Should we let them…

Generosity – you either have it or you don’t, it can not be acquired.

I heard this statement on the radio today and it made me stop and think – is that true – can you learn to be generous or is it something you are born with? Actually you could say that about most attributes we have as humans – can you learn them? Are there things you can do that will cultivate…

Good day all

I am looking for my family..Portelance...can anyone help me..

Iwas told that my BM name is Mary or Marie Portelance..i have a half sister by the name of karen...i halve a half brother name unknown aswell as the father....my name at birth is Rita Portelance...i was born at the catherine booth hospital in ndg.montreal...later to be transfered to United red feather which is batshaw today...i was adopted when i wa about 10 months old...i was born July 9 1966..i have…

Hello everyone.

My husband and I were blessed 5 months ago with our adoption of a beautiful baby girl.

We went through 6 years of infertility treatments beforehand, which was not a piece of cake.

I wouldn't trade our wonderful outdome for anything!

So, hang in there if you are in the process!

And to all the birthparents.....God Bless You!