Our certification paperwork is being approved this week and while I'm excited, I can't help but bite my fingernails. We are adopting through the foster care system and it's been a journey filled with meetings and paperwork and classes and waiting and paperwork and home studies and inspections and paperwork. Oh, and did I mention that we had a lot of paperwork?
If the adoption process were a pregnancy, the paperwork part would be the hemorrhoids. A giant pain in the… Continue
Added by Licha on June 20, 2009 at 1:17pm —
Nobody likes a dry blog post any more than I do but I have invited so many of my personal friends to this site and have received a lot of questions, that I thought I'd post some answers here:
1. How to I protect my Full Name from being used?
Just go to "my page" and go to the far right column under your name. The last link is "settings", click there. When your information pops up, change it to what you want SHOWN on your profile (your email is never shown) and click "Save".
Added by MamaPoRuski on June 20, 2009 at 10:09am —
Eating dinner one night...
Medina: My grandmother in Ethiopia cooked better.
Me: Better than what?
Medina: Better than you.
Me: Well, duh! Everyone cooks better than me.
Medina: Yeah. You're not very good cook.
Me: I know. But you're stuck with me.
The whole real mom thing...I can't even remember now how it came up now.
Medina: You're not my real mom.
Me: What do you mean?
Medina: You're not my real mom.
Added by Kerri on June 20, 2009 at 6:39am —
Today, we had our second visit with our home-study social worker who is preparing us to be licensed parents for adoption in Illinois.
It went very well. I like our social worker a lot. She has a great combination of professionalism, kindness, and friendliness.
Now, we just have a few more weeks to go. We should be home-study ready in August. And, then, we just need to be chosen by a birthmother. I am so excited, but soooooooo impatient, too!!! The wait seems long.
Added by Laura Cannon on June 19, 2009 at 4:09pm —
For those of you who are not familiar already with my story, I grew up the daughter of a very conservative pastor. When I was 16 years old I found out that I was pregnant to my controlling & unstable boyfriend who had previously been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Needless to say, my parents were outraged by the whole situation & decided the best thing was for me to move 3 hours away to a maternity home for the duration of my pregnancy. It ended up working out in the long run, I made… Continue
Added by Danielle on June 19, 2009 at 1:29pm —
I belong to several yahoo groups and other forums related to adoption in general, from Ethiopia, from Guatemala, etc. Over the last few days, there have been threads relating to corruption in adoption practices both in Guatemala and Ethiopia.
In every thread, I continue to be blown away by the adoptive parents (APs) and prospective adoptive parents (PAPs) who try to excuse away the evidence of corruption - developing countries have poor record keeping, birth families lie,… Continue
Added by Kerri on June 19, 2009 at 12:47pm —
I posted this on my blog a couple of days... www.princessellaruth.blogspot.com
I've gone back and forth about this post. I am afraid/worried about sounding "preachy" - keep in mind that this is my opinion. I've decided to post it because I believe that once your eyes are opened to a situation you are held responsible and accountable. When I adopted Ella from Guatemala I knew that I would be responsible for her. I was looking forward to the responsibilities that come with being a… Continue
Added by Rebecca Atkins on June 19, 2009 at 12:44pm —
My name is Mei-Ling Hopgood and I'm a journalist and author of Lucky Girl: A Memoir, published recently by Algonquin Books. I would love folks to check out Lucky Girl, which is about my surprise reunion and relationship with the birth family in Taiwan that gave me up for adoption when I was baby. I also talk about my childhood in the Midwest and experience as an Asian American. LG is really the untangling of the unlikely twists and turns and decisions that made me who I am and my personal… Continue
Added by Mei-Ling Hopgood on June 19, 2009 at 12:09pm —
I've wanted to find a way to get involved with adoption. To find a way to share my joys and passion for adoption. We have always had a great deal of support from our friends and family through our adoption process. Although they love our children and know what we went through to have them in our lives, it's nice to have others that have gone through the ups, downs, goods, and bads. This type of forum can be that support. You are not alone in the struggles, tears, joys, laughs, blessings. My… Continue
Added by Kristen on June 19, 2009 at 11:59am —
This Father’s Day Weekend (June 20-21), Wendy’s is helping consumers treat Dad and help foster children at the same time. Wendy’s third annual Father’s Day Frosty Weekend provides an easy and tasty way to support the cause of foster care adoption and help the more than 129,000 children in the U.S. who are waiting for the love of forever families.
During Father’s Day Weekend, Wendy’s will donate 50¢ from every Frosty product sold to the Dave Thomas Foundation for Adoption (DTFA), a… Continue
Added by Joanne on June 19, 2009 at 5:54am —
Though we adopted our children as infants (at birth and 10 weeks), I've blinked my eyes and they are now 25 and 14. Both situations were SO different... One a closed adoption in the early 80s and the other an open adoption from the mid 90s. Their reactions to it, in which personalities are also a factor, are so very different, and yet I've seen some underlying 'attachment' issues with both of them over the years. (of course another factor in the whole mix was the death of my husband when they… Continue
Added by J Lynette Reinford on June 19, 2009 at 4:11am —
There seems to be a lot of debate when it comes to openness in adoption, and since it is a relatively new concept, there is not much research or information about the long term benefits of it. For many of those with open adoptions it seems like a great alternative to closed adoptions of the past. But, there are still a lot of unanswered questions. These unanswered questions often affect the way we approach adoption and can keep us from exploring relationships with birthparents.
Added by Andrea Allen on June 18, 2009 at 9:37pm —
You may think you know what you want for your life. You many think you have control. But God will always make sure you have what you are suppose to have. He will make sure you "get it". My children may be adopted, but they have the spirits of the children I would have had, and have been part of my life's plan all along. Even if I didn't know it, this was what I was suppose to be, who I am suppose to be, and these children are who I am suppose to love, cherish and nurture.
Did you receive… Continue
Added by Kristen on June 18, 2009 at 9:30pm —
(Repost from June 16, 2009 LWB blog www.lifeofgiving.blogspot.com) Having my girls home everyday for summer vacation, I have enjoyed them playing around the house, coming to me with their questions, creating art projects, writing stories and songs. They are no longer toddlers, preschoolers, or young elementary age little girls anymore, but are now on the cusp of becoming beautiful preteen girls, with ideas, opinions, and creativity. I often think of their birthparents as I watch them, wondering… Continue
Added by Karen Maunu on June 18, 2009 at 8:27pm —
I know of a family who had three adopted children. They each get a special day during the year (aside from their birthday) know as "Gotch Day". Each child gets to celebrate the day that they joined the family. What a GREAT idea!!!
Does anybody else celebrate like this????
Added by Susan Alliston-Kearney on June 18, 2009 at 8:22pm —
I know my friends don't mean anything by it and that people are just curious, but it is so annoying when people ask that question in front of my daughter. I don't mind if they ask me in private but when she is around the subject is off limits. We are currently fostering a precious little girl with the possibility of adoption. We have no concrete answer yet as to whether she will become free for adoption but we are praying that she does. So why do I hate the question,"Are you going to get to… Continue
Added by Becky (Thomas) Johnson on June 18, 2009 at 7:00pm —
I wrote this post after our first adoption of our son in 2007. We chose adoption not because we were infertile, but rather saw the need and realized we could make a difference in the life of a child that perhaps no one else wanted. We were surprised at the responses we got from those around us, even our close family and friends had less than stellar comments! I suppose before we decided to adopt, we probably said some of these stupid comments as well. So, if you know some one who has adopted or… Continue
Added by MamaPoRuski on June 18, 2009 at 5:46pm —
It's no secret that I am a big supporter of the work The Dave Thomas Foundation For Adoption
does. Now you can help and it won't cost you a thing. :)
Create and send a free fathers days e-card, or choose a celebrity created one through their site Frosty Card
and Wendy's will donate 25 cents to
The Dave Thomas Foundation For Adoption.
Father's day is this Sunday so stop by their… Continue
Added by Joanne on June 18, 2009 at 4:29pm —
Every so often – lately it’s been fairly often – nine-year-old Christopher will seek me out with a particularly deflated expression. It’s been an Alexander Day (you know, a “terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day…”), and only a proper cuddle is going to fix it.
This, I tell you, is one of my very favorite parts of parenting. “Looks like SOMEBODY needs his Love Banks checked,” I say.
“Yep,” he grumps, a tiny flicker of a smile… Continue
Added by Heidi Hess Saxton on June 18, 2009 at 4:16pm —
Wow, a really bizarre day. I got laid off from my job. I am still in shock. I was told they are completely restructuring the legal department at Home Depot. I was the only one laid off from my group, however. My case load has been down. I was not particularly surprised.
Several of my close friends have been laid off recently, so I am in good company.
When I got home, I was checking emails and ran across this quote, that I really like:
“If there is no struggle,… Continue
Added by Dee Thompson on June 18, 2009 at 3:12pm —