Adoption Voices

I have found out over the last few weeks that my patience level has declined. I have always thought I was a patient person and maybe I am on some topics but this is not one of them. I have not heard my social worker since 6/24/09. I sent an email on Sunday evening, because I have been hearing from her on Sunday nights. Well I got an automatic reply that she was out of the office until 7/6/09. I had alot of issues that needed addressed this week. For example, our PPA being sent out for children that I saw on websites and updates that was requested. I called her supervisor and left a message two days this week and as of 5:30pm today, I still haven't heard anything from her. We have never met our worker because she out when we signed up and was assigned to a different one and was switched after we got agency approval on our home study. The day I received the email we were being switched, I tried to make contact to set up an appt. with her, didn't hear from her for five days. When she did email me she can't meet us until 7/14.

It is hard to work with someone that you have never met on a delicate subject as this. I am beginning to feel as if we could possibly be missing out on a lovely child due to the fact that I can't get my PPA submitted in a timely matter.

I don't know how to deal with all of these feelings that I'm having right now. I don't to make the workers made at the agency, but I want a child. So what do I do??????

Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.

Views: 2

Tags: frustation, patience, support


You need to be a member of Adoption Voices to add comments!

Join Adoption Voices

Comment by miki esplin on July 4, 2009 at 1:29am
its true, very true, i was told by one agency not to cal more than once a month since they focus on the birthmoms and i can see that. but she didnt mean dont call if you have a problem or want to ask something specific. but u gotta meet her or have phone calls with her, this is too detached, dont feel that you have to be hushed just b/c you are waiting. be diplomatic yet assertive.
Comment by Penny Diamond on July 3, 2009 at 6:04am
I think you should get a different social worker. Every time we have had any question on anything, our social worker has returned our calls or e-mails within 24 hours (unless it was the weekend) and she doesn't even work full time hours. I think it is very strange you haven't met your social worker, and she hasn't returned your calls. Is this what you are to expect the entire process? I wouldn't put up with it. This IS a delicate matter, and she should realize how important every little step is to hopeful adoptive parents.
Comment by miki esplin on July 2, 2009 at 11:09pm
it is hard ... i usually pray or distract myself or do something for someone or look around and recognoze i have a gr8 hubby and cute dogs etc...and hug them.
but it is hard...);
Comment by Danielle on July 2, 2009 at 4:18pm
Aww Terry, I am so sorry to hear about your struggles to make contact with your social worker. That is really tough, I'm sure. I wish I had some more insight on this kind of a situation but unfortunately I was on the other side of the coin in my personal experience, so I don't really have any advice to give you other than just keep praying & please don't feel like you're missing out! It will happen, God will bless your desire for a child & when you receive him/her, the child WILL be the one that is meant for you! Hang in there! ( :



  • Add Photos
  • View All


© 2014   Created by Adoption Voices.

Badges  |  Report an Issue  |  Terms of Service