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Comment by Rebecca on August 13, 2009 at 7:39am

Yes, holding my new nieces has helped fill some of that void. Thanks for sharing that Brenda. Only bad part is that at the end of the day I can't take them home. And it's probably just me but I get a weird vibe when I'm holding them around their moms. They being so little still I think their moms have a protective vibe they give off.

Comment by Brenda R Francis on August 12, 2009 at 7:15pm

We've been waiting a year now. Last October, my sister-in-law told me she was pregnant. She wanted to tell me first because she didn't want me to find out last and be angry with her. I was shocked that she thought I would feel that way! Was I that selfish? Yes, I was sad it wasn't me, but thrilled about a new baby to hold and love while I waited for ours. Yes, it's taken longer than I'd hoped, but holding my new little neice has helped me fill the void while waiting for our baby and I can pour out my love to her. Maybe I'll get to be her favorite Aunt instead of my sister! :) lol. At first it was really hard and made me feel really sad. But now, I truly believe that God will bless us when HIS timing is right, and meanwhile I get to sleep through the night and still love on a baby! God is good!

Comment by Elizabeth Yap on August 12, 2009 at 4:45pm

I feel so sad for you. I remember feeling exactly the way you are describing - hurt and jealous that others zoomed past on the freeway of life while I stayed stuck at the side of the road WAITING. But that was many years ago and I'm now the Mum of two wonderful teenagers and my hurt and jealousy has melted away to be replaced by overwhelming gratitude. There is hope even though waiting is the pits and just think - you can enjoy the freedom of nights out and holidays for now and later you will get all the great hand-me-downs and still have your kids at home when your in laws are suffering from empty nest syndrome.

Comment by Stephanie B. on August 12, 2009 at 3:49pm

Thanks for joining me in my pity party. I'm sure your caseworker is right. It is hard to have charity when I am just feeling cranky. =) You have been waiting longer than me too...We are hitting 9 months now - about the length of a pregnancy right!? It is so hard to hear from other couples who had such short waits... Just jealous I guess. My baby turned 3. I had a schedule darn it! =) =)

Let's go eat some ice cream.

Comment by Rebecca on August 12, 2009 at 1:55pm

Can I join in your pity party? Funny how Monday I got a new niece too. This will be 3 new nieces over the last 8 weeks. Every sibling of my husband now has a beautiful baby girl except us. It's been a hard week. The 19th will be our 1 year waiting mark and then a day later marks the day the baby girl we were supposed to get was born. So I'm feeling pretty low as well. Our previous caseworker suggested that when these births happen I should pray that this family can feel all the joy and happiness they can over this baby. The exact thing I want for myself. That exercise of charity could heal my own hurt.